Ready to Love is probably my favorite dating show because it offers a realistic snapshot for singles on the dating scene. Chances are you see yourself or someone you've dated in the ten men and ten women selected to be on any given season of the Will Packer produced dating game show.
Season four is off to a great start with a beautifully interesting cast and Tommy's wife being added to the mix as an advocate/counselor for the women. An additional twist thrown into the fourth season was the elimination of two bachelors on the very first night! In past seasons one person has been sent packing the first night and while it's usually a man, it was unexpected for two men to leave right after introductions.
With stakes that high, one has to wonder what makes a man stand out in a pool of ten available attractive bachelors. While our culture is fighting to rid itself of gender roles, we haven't shed them quite yet so the women place themselves prettily around the the social areas and wait for the men to approach. While this hunter vs. prey dynamic works perfectly for the stereotypical aggressive male, but what about blerds or artistic guys? The first guy sent home in season three was an artist who didn't connect well when put on the spot with women and history repeated itself with the beginning of season four.
Christian Pope, a 36-year old mailman and Khaleel Lott a 41 year old teacher were both admittedly much more laidback than the ladies preferred. A few of the ladies actually pulled Christian to the side and told him they considered him attractive but he needed to be more aggressive. Khaleel admitted the speed dating setting isn't the best option for a guy like him that isn't aggressive and doesn't have pick up lines ready to go on the fly.
I realize there has been a new appreciation for black nerds aka blerds and especially teachers during this time but for some reason that sentiment doesn't translate when men are forced to compete for women. I believe it's women's nature to be attracted to the man who seems the most confident and secure in himself, because that suggests he'll be a great leader. I wonder if there is room for a more passive and quiet yet loving and capable leader?
Let me know your thoughts.
Author/journalist/host Christal Jordan is a self-proclaimed love ambassador. After serving as Relationship's Editor for one of the most influential urban magazines in the country, interviewing today's hottest reality stars on their relationship ups, downs, and missteps, Christal has decided to share her perspective with fans who share her guilty pleasure for celeb/reality romance.