Tressa Eleby is the vivacious comedian cast for season 4 of Ready to Love who just happens to be what some would label a BBW. Earlier in the year I spoke with Tommy about the fact that Ready to Love has been under attack for it's inability to cast singles that don't fit a certain status quo. Last season Black twitter demanded body diversity in relation to arguably the most successful African American dating show on television. Tommy assured me the producers were open for all body types, ages and life experiences and championed Tressa as a pioneer as Ready to Love's first BBW.
Although Tommy seemed pleased with the show's growth, I couldn't help but feel skeptical about his optimism. The entertainment and social media like are not environments that truly celebrate diversity. Dating apps and social media relationship opportunities are more often than not focused on superficial traits. We swipe past "real people" on dating sites clicking on photoshopped opportunities that we want to believe in although we know they are too good to be true. As I thought about all the shots of singles on the three previous seasons of Ready to Love, I wasn't sure where a BBW would fit in the production story.
Tressa was a great contender with a spicy personality and a seemingly good sense of self, however none of the men selected her as a favorite after the initial mixer. She was immediately labeled as a "friend or homie" although the only thing that set her apart was her size.
After an impromptu conversation with Dedrick, he told Tressa that although he wasn't attracted to her initially, because she had the "best personality" in the cast, he wanted to reconsider and go out with her to see if attraction could grow. Against her better judgement, Tressa agreed to go on the date although she acknowledged rarely did guys fantasize about a girl's "great personality".
The ending was painfully predictable, with Dedrick deciding that although Tressa's personality was amazing, he just didn't feel any connection. She was eliminated, but not before she delivered a very candid diatribe about the way BBW's are often treated by the opposite sex. Tressa's candor was more than admirable as she voiced the issues that many viewers were replaying in their heads throughout her interaction with Dedrick.
I applaud Tressa for her courage and confidence, and I believe she is a pioneer on the show even though her road didn't lead to love. In order to change the hypocrisies we all experience in dating, we have to take out the mirror of accountability and get real with ourselves.
Judging men by the size of their wallets and women by their dress size, leaves most of us on the wrong side of love. Even if we do snatch the proverbial "rich guy" or "fine girl" we can often be left empty if they satisfy ONLY the superficial appetite that feeds our ego. It also ensures we will miss out on amazing multidimensional people that have so much more to offer than the numbers on their bank statement or scale. This isn't to suggest that we should date people we aren't attracted to, but perhaps we all need to widen our definition of attraction for our own sakes as we go through life, mature and physically grow older.
Good luck to Tressa. In our thoughts you were more than "ready to love", it was the men on the show that weren't ready for you.
Check out this clip of the ladies from Married at First sight having a candid conversation about their marriages. What are your predictions for decision day? I'm not feeling confident about anymore besides Paige and Vincent. If Clara does stay with Ryan.....I doubt the marriage will last. Let me know your thoughts.
Lifetime figured out what to do with the hundreds of rejects from their hit series 'Married at First Sight'. They've decided to recycle the hopeless singles for an all new dating-in-training series titled, 'Married at First Sight Unmatchables'.
Check out this clip below from an upcoming episode. I'm not so sure Pastor Cal or Dr. Viviana will be able to whip these singles in to shape, but regardless it should be fun to watch. (It's too bad Chris from the current season wasn't thrown in this batch prior to the show *Kanye shrug*)
OK at this point I'm just about obsessed with Jeannie Mai and Jeezy's love affair. From the beginning when she took a chance and publicly stated he was her celebrity crush on 'The Real', fast forward to her frequent commentary on their growing relationship and of course the beautiful wedding we witnessed via Vogue magazine last month....I am all about Jeezy and Jeannie Mai.
What really impressed me was how quickly she changed her professional name to Jenkins. Most married accomplished celebrities would hyphenate or just change their legal last name as opposed to their professional last name, but the fact that Jeannie Mai had not only her name changed but her name placard and intro on 'The Real' immediately impressed me beyond measure. This woman is crazy in love and I'm here for it.
Right after their nuptials the couple teamed up with the mayor of Atlanta and donated brand new bikes to over 1,000 inner city youth. Talk about power couple and power team? This is how it should be done.
Ok I'm a fan now. :)
*Check out Jeannie Mai's new intro to 'The Real' below. Jeannie Mai Jenkins sounds like somebody's big Mama and I am loving it! *
My bi-weekly celebrity relationship segment for Fox 5's Good Day Atlanta allowed me the opportunity to chat about Mr. & Mrs. Carter's 13th wedding anniversary. Can we say how amazing Beyonce looks in these micro shorts? Geesh!
Ready to Love is probably my favorite dating show because it offers a realistic snapshot for singles on the dating scene. Chances are you see yourself or someone you've dated in the ten men and ten women selected to be on any given season of the Will Packer produced dating game show.
Season four is off to a great start with a beautifully interesting cast and Tommy's wife being added to the mix as an advocate/counselor for the women. An additional twist thrown into the fourth season was the elimination of two bachelors on the very first night! In past seasons one person has been sent packing the first night and while it's usually a man, it was unexpected for two men to leave right after introductions.
With stakes that high, one has to wonder what makes a man stand out in a pool of ten available attractive bachelors. While our culture is fighting to rid itself of gender roles, we haven't shed them quite yet so the women place themselves prettily around the the social areas and wait for the men to approach. While this hunter vs. prey dynamic works perfectly for the stereotypical aggressive male, but what about blerds or artistic guys? The first guy sent home in season three was an artist who didn't connect well when put on the spot with women and history repeated itself with the beginning of season four.
Christian Pope, a 36-year old mailman and Khaleel Lott a 41 year old teacher were both admittedly much more laidback than the ladies preferred. A few of the ladies actually pulled Christian to the side and told him they considered him attractive but he needed to be more aggressive. Khaleel admitted the speed dating setting isn't the best option for a guy like him that isn't aggressive and doesn't have pick up lines ready to go on the fly.
I realize there has been a new appreciation for black nerds aka blerds and especially teachers during this time but for some reason that sentiment doesn't translate when men are forced to compete for women. I believe it's women's nature to be attracted to the man who seems the most confident and secure in himself, because that suggests he'll be a great leader. I wonder if there is room for a more passive and quiet yet loving and capable leader?
Let me know your thoughts.
The season finale of Marrying Millions was very anti-climatic with all of the couples finding a way to work together with the exception of Desiree and Rodney. If you watch the show, you know this couple makes me itch. I can barely watch scenes with the two of them together because it comes off as so very fake!
Whether Rodney is having a conversation with his assistant, his mother (which I love) or his group of guy friends (that scene was sooooo random) it just doesn't feel like Rodney is genuinely into Desiree. It feels like as soon as the cameras wrap Desiree collects her coins and back to her real life of seeking a high value man and Rodney....well I'm not sure what Rodney is seeking.
In the finale, Rodney's mother suggests that he needs to be honest with himself and that he shouldn't get into any other relationships until he figures out what he really wants. Could this be her way of suggesting that maybe Rodney doesn't want to be with a woman at all? That's what I took from it. I can't be the only one holding a mental "BS" sign up whenever Rodney tries to reassure Desiree that he wants to be with her. It just doesn't feel like a remote possibility that Rodney is interested in what Desiree is selling. (And judging by her skimpy clothes and mail order bride wig - we know she is selling something to a willing demographic)
With this season over and Rodney stomping off to his room after suggesting he may never get married...I think it's safe to say there were some issues the couple didn't want to share with their TV audience. I'd be willing to bet my change purse that Rodney is looking for a total different type of gold digger all together. Maybe he'll find him next season?
Ready to Love is back for its fourth season with a little help for Tommy Miles. Instead of counseling both bachelors and bachelorettes every week, Tommy's wife Jackie has joined him as a coach for the female contestants.
Personally I think Tommy is amazing as a host for this show. I can see him doing it every season, much like Chris Harrison became the familiar face for all things 'The Bachelor' related. I love the idea of his wife joining the show because Tommy's marital success is one of the many things that makes him such a great person to counsel men looking to make the big jump to marriage.
The first episode showcasing the personalities of the new contestants was interesting as always. I'm interested to see this group of ladies because they are even more bossed up than seasons past. The guys are good-looking but seem a bit more well-rounded and down to earth than they were last season.
Anyway, you know I'll be watching!
'The Real's' Jeannie Mae married Jeezy this past weekend in a surprise ceremony at the couple's beautiful Atlanta home. A few days prior to the wedding announcement, a wedding license was leaked so it wasn't a total surprise that the Hollywood couple made the move to matrimony but the details were juicy enough to make it trend-worthy.
The couple have been going strong since Jeannie Mai admitted during a conversation on 'The Real' that her celebrity crush was the 'corporate thug' rapper with the dangerous bad boy image. Jeezy was obviously touched and wasted no time asking the talk show host on a first date before sweeping her off her feet in a whirlwind romance.
Jeezy has slowly been making the transition from hardcore rapper Young Jeezy to a more polished and sophisticated Jeezy but this coupling has locked the transition in so that most people have forgotten Young Jeezy and are now totally acquainted with Jeezy aka Jay Wayne Jenkins.
I remember years ago when Ciara married Russell Wilson, people suggested that because of Russell, Ciara was able to transition to the type of woman she always dreamed of one day being. A picture of Ciara with Future smoking weed, looking high as all get out in a skimpy outfit was placed next to a picture of her looking classy next to Russell with the suggestion that HE was the difference. Women have tried emulating the prayer Ciara prayed in order to get Russell.
What's good for the goose is good for the gander sooooo..... I am suggesting that Jeannie Mai is responsible for the new and improved Jeezy. Much like Ciara upgraded her life with Russell, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that Jeezy upgraded his life with Jeannie Mai. Jeezy went from being on the cover of the Source on his own to having a full wedding spread in Vogue with his Emmy award-winning new boo. Maybe we need to be sending men the exact prayer that Jeezy prayed so that they can get a winner too?
Author/journalist/host Christal Jordan is a self-proclaimed love ambassador. After serving as Relationship's Editor for one of the most influential urban magazines in the country, interviewing today's hottest reality stars on their relationship ups, downs, and missteps, Christal has decided to share her perspective with fans who share her guilty pleasure for celeb/reality romance.